Sunday, June 28, 2015

Your Pride and the Beautiful You

Facebook's shout out to the world for #equality.
Pride is the root of all evil as “they” say.

But the word pride denotes a lot more like a detergent, a 2004 British TV film, a sense of confidence, national upliftment, and of course self-worth. To emphasize, all of these representations are contrary to that common adage.

The month of June is not only for the brides anymore; but also now shared with the celebration of the “Pride Month,” or when the people stand up for the rightful freedom, acceptance (not tolerance), and celebration of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) in every nook and cranny of both the real and virtual world.
Earlier this month, the courage of Bruce Jenner, who came out as dazzling Caitlyn –buzzing the social network feeds and gaining support globally –is just one of all the many reasons in celebrating the Pride Month. This is not to mention how local personalities, like Aiza Seguerra, Charice Pempengco, and Rustom Padilla (now Bebe Gandanghari), who braved to face the camera to show their true and genuine self.

More importantly, some of the essential objectives in observing the Pride Month are these societal disabilities that are still hounding this growing community:
  • Many are still mute about the everyday struggles of every individual in the LGBT community; 
  • Many are still blinded on how these equally beautiful human beings can be a significant asset to the predominantly straight society; and 
  • Many are still deaf to the triumphs and sacrifices of the LGBT community, mostly unheard stories, even though these benefit the larger community. 
Very recently, the hullabaloo on the Valkyrie incident came crashing the airwaves and social feeds like a wild fire creating connecting and disconnecting views about sexual orientation and gender identity and expression. Let us not go beyond the limits of the topic, with or without the dress code, truth of the matter is there is still suppression of gender identity and expression against the LGBT community in many societies not just here in the country. The LGBT community cannot beg, fight, cry, and cry harder forever for acceptance of the society where they belong. But at least, let them be themselves in terms of their gender identity and how they want to express it without prejudice; just like how the LGBT community tries to understand their own society, including you and I, for being an integral part of it.

In this sense, friends and identified individuals of the LGBT community create activities, in their own little way, to stand firm, heads up and thrust for their right as people who are worthy to be recognized and accepted by the society; who are eager to forget the days of being maligned and maltreated for no reason but being themselves.

This is why I admire the works of LoveYourself, Inc., which is an advocacy group I’m part of that is concerned with HIV testing, counseling and peer education. In celebrating the Pride Month, the group held its LoveYourself Carnivale 2015 last June 20 at the Quezon City Memorial Circle. Many other interest groups have also expressed love and pride through different activities this month, such as the LGBT parade and celebratory parties around the metro among others.

To cap it all, the Pride Month is a celebration of life, loving one’s self despite the odds and imperfections, and being “#ProudtobeMe,” as how Vice Ganda simply put it. Regardless of what you do or can do, what you wear, and what you have, you have to always remember that all are equal no matter who, what, and where you are, because the way you are now is already beautiful and acceptable. ###

Monday, April 7, 2008

A dream love

Are you gay? Or lesbian? Maybe you are not, because you live by the norms of this heterosexual fascist world. Oh well, both terms have the same connotation as "third sex" in this normal society (as if there is really another sex to begin with). But... if you are, have you ever been in love? The point is not whether you are gay or lesbian, but the experience of being loved. Yes?!! Have you been in love whatever your sexual and gender preferences are? Have you ever been loved by another person other than your loving family or platonic friends? The person who indeed gives off unconditional love to you whatever his/her reason/s are. Someone who just loves you -the whole of you.

If you are gay or lesbian, you know for sure that being yourself is attached with prejudices by this world. Love and acceptance is always vague for you. In some cases, when you extend love, you are hardly appreciated. When you care for others, especially of the same sex, connotes a feedback of sarcasm from other people (as if they are perfect). More often than not, you just laugh at these prejudicial people, but when you are hidden from their view, you cry all your miseries for being yourself.

Truly, love is a dream for most of us. Even heterosexuals hardly find true and unconditional love. Argumentatively, what more if you are part of the LGBT? For one, if you are gay, you are being judged by the people because of your actions and intentions. For instance, if you are gay who fell in love with the same sex, this kind of love might be wrong for the eyes of these heterosexual people. Funnier is, when you try to love a female, you are also being questioned of your capability of doing your responsibility as an able "partner"of the opposite sex. Now, where will you position yourself?

Love is an elusive dream, a wish to be truly loved by another person for some lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT). I am talking of the love that does not have gender malice for the members of the LGBT community. You might be gay, but can be truly loved by either a male or a female. Point is being loved by a person that is entirely out of your blood line and experience the love with a person you admired most or have a crush on. Being loved by the person whom you would want to spend most of your time/life with. Yet in some realities, you often doubt this kind of "dream" for this society rarely showed any “true love,” and at some point, not even familial love is present for the LGBT members. I hope that this is not really the case or at least it can be changed sooner than later.

The truth is the only thing you are asking for is to be loved. Yet most of the consequences are worse than you committing a crime, or worst some "perfects" already see it as a crime in itself. Hell, yes! Even though you are just expressing your feelings for others. Nevertheless, even with that kind of intolerance, it should not be awful to live like you, when the only thing you are giving and asking for is love -a true love. Someday, love will be found and will be given in return. And someday, the dream will soon become reality. 
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